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Sexting: Why Girls Do It

June 14, 2009

Society normalizes today’s teen-aged girls to “sexting.”   It’s not their fault, but females of all ages take the blame for a lot about man-made society that’s not their fault.   That’s a short answer to the “why” of girls sexting and getting punished for it.

The whole story of why requires a look at the big picture other than what’s on the cell-phone or laptop screen of any high school girls at the moment of sexting.

Everything about this blog is social commentary and  the sexting issue — cell phone photos, laptops and teen web cams, coarsening of culture, on and on it goes with a focus on the girls apart from the gender-class sexual politics girls did not establish  — typifies the hypocrisy of blaming females, business as usual, for social forces they did not make.

Social beings live in social context.  Isolation to a social being can feel like death itself.  We know (from being there now or having been there) how important fitting in to a peer group is to teens.   (Photo illustration:  Chris Bovey, online with name reference, apparently a male photographer from what can be googled; the female model not credited so we do not know if she is an ex-girlfriend or ex-wife, a current girlfriend or wife, a “hot” for fun and for free one night stand, a sex worker, a photoshopped image added to a cell-phone photo or a woman who voluntarily let hersef be photographed to bring attention to a social phenomenom.  Whoever she is, she’s  nothing if not “hot.”)

This week’s multi-plex offering, The Taking of Pelham 123, also normalizes sexting by a young woman (teen) showing her bra via laptop to the handsome boyfriend who says he loves her while riding a subway train publicly to watch her sexting.  His love talk is that he’s “got her” and she (like the mythic Echo to Narcissus) echoes the words back to him as her shirt comes off to reveal the bra.  The laptop on the highjacked subway train ultimately saves the handsome man’s young life.  No two or more girls or women are shown onscreen at any time in any sort of relationship, friendship or otherwise. No mother onscreen has a relationship with a daughter (athough a key plot point involves a mother and a son).  “Bitch” is normalized by the film’s opening soundtrack and John Travolta’s character discussing “bitch” as a subordinated being who takes it from a dominant male.
Even Denzel Washington’s character was screenwritten not to honor the telephone request of his valiant wife (while she suffered, home and alone, watching the media portrayal of danger to her husband) for something as ordinary as that he bring home a gallon of milk.  (Asking him to bring home a gallon of milk at workday’s end was her brave, no-nonsense way to show faith in his longevity, by the daily-living nature of her request made by phone call during his risky ordeal.  Thus, although she stood by her man and showed her faith in all things male, he argued with her about size of milk container. He brought home a half gallon.)
Do you see the valiant wife or any female face pictured anywhere on the movie poster?
Poster Art for "The Taking of Pelham 123." 2009 Sony Pictures.

Sexting:  Girls do it because they want to fit in to the male-dominant “hot” culture the longest war has made.  Girls do it because they do not see any other viable options.  Girls do it because their mothers, damaged through no fault of their own by the longest war, have not bonded and banded together to stop the damage they pass on to their daughters in the “token torturer” role (various combinations of fitting-in fashion or stages of undress, over-emphasis on appearance, plastic surgery, believing in malehood to save us  -or-  the flip side of religious fundamentalism,  following man-God religions and subordinating the female by demure but sex-mandated dress code and conduct as the mind-numbing pathway to a false peace built on the backs of women —  on and on it goes with media and man-God religion to entrain the brain).

And then some prosecutors want to tag the girls as sex offenders for sexting. Do not get me started about the red-herring of prosecuting or not.   (Oh, no, here comes a mini-rant any way.)

Some women (and some men) bravely name this nonsense of prosecuting teen sexting instead of looking at the true sexually political causes, just as some women (and some men) bravely network and mobilize for women’s freedom around the globe from escalating oppression (mental and physical) against women.  But in a sexually political male-dominant world of social conditioning, the male-dominant goal (by the media product and religious dogma being disseminated) is that men keep on dominating because  women do not help women —  and daughters and mothers (or dads who would not sell out their daughters to male-dominant values) do not bond —  leaving women with only men and/or the man-God to adore and worship.

Eroticizing this power differential in man’s war against womankind is what sexting (get ’em early and often) is all about.